The holidays are over, the new year has begun. Most people have made their New Year’s resolutions, but in reality, much of those commitments will go out the door very quickly. I am guilty of doing this myself. I try to do so much at once and end up over committing and then the feeling of failure sets in. We have all been there at some point or another.
I want to share my story from back in 2016 when I decided to set a goal, which took me a while to achieve, but it was my focus and mindset that help me get there this time around. I went through a mental shift and stayed focus by writing down my goals every day. This mental focus did not allow me to give up and finally graduate from college. Prior to 2016, I had attempted to finish my degree on several occasions, but each time I failed and dropped out of class. The reason why I failing during those times, was that I was allowing myself to make excuses as to why I could not continue with school. I was mentally weak during that time.
First of all, it is really hard to be a student and mom and wife and a working professional, all at the same time. I mean, really?!? How the hell can I do it all and still be happy day in a day out?!?!? Dealing with home responsibilities, family and work can be overwhelming and exhausting when you are trying to do it all at once and then throw in school. Goodness!!! Once I got home from a long day at work (and by long I am referring to over 13 hours on several occasions throughout the month); the last thing I wanted to do was school work. Plus, I still needed to spend some time with my family in the evening because that was and is really important to me, I want to know about their day. But I was determined to achieve this goal no matter what came my way.
The mental shift that I went through, was what helped me push through on days that I was exhausted. I had a few breakdowns (God bless my husband, he did a great job putting up with me on those days lol), the whole world was going to come to an end of those days. But after I let it all out (scream, argued, and the anxiety passed), I went back and thought about my goal. I started writing them down each day and the way I would write it was as if I had already earned my degree. My mood change and once again I was able to focus on what my end goal was. I did this, OVER AND OVER again from 2016 all the way to October 2018. Once, I finally graduated in October 2018, I felt such a relief and excitement, “WOW I am finally DONE, I DID IT!!”. All those tears, anxiety attacks, and frustrating moments were all worth! Now, I look back and I am proud of what I have accomplished and grateful that I pushed through it, especially on bad days.
Everyone has a goal, whether it is to lose weight, reach an income bracket, travel, maybe start a business, etc. Whatever the goal may be, it is achievable, but you truly have to commit to the goal. You have to look at yourself and dig deep on those moments of weakness where you feel like giving up. Those are the times when you need to let the emotions pass through you (you are human and you are allowed to have a breakdown or five) and then remember why you are doing this, why you set the goal in the first place. Things will not be given to you, you have to go after what you want and find a way to achieve it.
For 2019, whatever goal you have set for yourself, I recommend you write them down every day. You don’t have to spend a long time doing this (5 minutes or so will do), get a notebook and write your goals down…EVERY DAY. Why every day? Because it will help you focus on what you are trying to achieve, plus it allows your mind to be more efficient by helping you focus on the truly important stuff. Don’s say you don’t have time either, because writing those goals down can be done while you are in bed scrolling through your phone, or when you having lunch and you are scrolling through your phone. See, I just helped you find time to write down does goals, by the way, you are welcome!!! So, may this year be a success for you and may you achieve all of your goals from this point forward.